Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 6, 2009, 5:16 am
By James Dao Born and reared in Virginia, the son of immigrant parents from a small Palestinian town near Jerusalem, he joined the Army right out of high school, against his parents’ wishes. The Ar...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 5, 2009, 11:36 pm
"Are You Involved With A Psychopath?" Stop The Madness By: Michael G. Conner, Psy.D, Clinical, Medical & Family Psychologist For most of us the idea of a psychopath conjures up images from movies li...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 4, 2009, 10:10 pm
In COMPLETE agreement with UppityWoman here: Here’s a rape victim who confronts that Weasel David Vitter and asks him why he didn’t support the bill that allows a rape victim to confront her rapi...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 3, 2009, 11:55 pm
Calling her dumb, an idiot, stupid is verbal abuse. Putting her down, criticizing her, defeating her in argument for the sake of defeating, not for the sake of mutual enlightenment – this is verbal...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 3, 2009, 11:35 pm
By Amy Norton An unhappy marriage can break a woman's heart, figuratively and literally. New research suggests that married women who are dissatisfied with their relationships face a higher risk ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 3, 2009, 9:30 pm
I was greatly pleased and not surprised to see this in JPost in Sept. 2007. Israel has been a shining light in healthcare advances for many years. I believe that Israel may cure a number of autoimmu...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 2, 2009, 11:05 pm
The following steps represent my plan for increasing my safety and preparing in advance for the possibility for further violence. Although I do not have control over my partner's violence, I do ha...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 1, 2009, 11:52 pm
Overcoming the Role of Victim or Martyr Ten differences between being a martyr or a victim? 1. Martyrs are people who recognize they are being taken advantage of and choose to remain in the situatio...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 1, 2009, 7:45 pm
SPEAK NO EVIL Goldberg, P.I. investigates lashon hara By Tod Goldberg November 2006, when the Pulitzer Prize board announced that blog posts are now eligible for the award, blogging officially becam...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 1, 2009, 6:36 pm
With difficult state elections and a crucial military decision looming, President Barack Obama sat down with his wife Michelle last month to give an in-depth magazine interview about a subject that ha...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 31, 2009, 11:23 pm
CONTROLLING HER TIME: The abuser controls his partner's time by making her wait. He will say he is ready to talk, but will continue doing something else while his partner waits. He will tell her h...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 30, 2009, 11:02 pm
"Abused women aren’t “codependent.” It is abusers, not their partners, who create abusive relationships." Excerpt: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Lundy Bancr...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 30, 2009, 1:36 pm
From a consistently great & illuminating blogger -- Rabble Rouser Rev. Amy: There has been a great deal of talk and debate about health care in the country recently as the Democrats push Heath Care R...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 30, 2009, 5:16 am
My question - WHY DO THESE PEOPLE MOVE TO THE U.S. IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT? from the awesome Uppity Woman: Arizona police are looking for an Iraqi man who they allege ran down his daughter and h...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 29, 2009, 11:09 pm
Con artists scam because it gives them infinite pleasure to "put one over" on anyone who stands still long enough. The compulsion to scam is so strong that a con artist will produce a scam even if he...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 28, 2009, 11:51 pm
Treating Sexual & Pornographic Addictions Sex & porn addictions require therapists with special training in these areas for patients to have a good chance of recovery. These illnesses are very difficu...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 28, 2009, 9:40 pm
Emotional rape can be defined as: Emotional abuse characterized by patterned and purposeful behavior which purpose is to undermine and control the victim. It is an attack on the victim's persona...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 28, 2009, 9:27 pm
by Ed Morrissey Concerned Women for America has a series of humorous videos highlighting their objections to ObamaCare. They cleverly use one of the most annoying inventions of the modern age, the vo...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 27, 2009, 11:49 pm
Infidelity causes pain and suffering. Sometimes, it becomes a form of emotional violence. By Michael Clanchy and Chris Trotter The Age (Melbourne, Australia), excerpts under "fair use" to encourage...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 27, 2009, 5:48 am
Going public about any abuse you have endured can be a very healing and empowering experience. But it takes caution, thought and courage. Before I went public about some of the abuse I experienced i...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 26, 2009, 11:27 pm
Freedom and Recovery from Cults and Abusive Relationships By Madeleine L. Tobias and Janja Lalich Chapter one excerpts - The Cultic Relationship. Cults may be large or small. What defines them is no...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 26, 2009, 5:18 am
For goodness sake, Rush! I am not a fan of Obambi's (and I am certainly not a fan of yours) but can you just PRETEND to have some journalistic integrity and check things before you bloviate about...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 25, 2009, 11:44 pm
"When Your Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong - Loving or Leaving the Narcissist in Your Life" by Mary Jo Fay Chapter 13 The Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde phenomenon that occurs in relationships with nar...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 24, 2009, 10:49 pm
This article is another gem from Kathy Krajco on Narcissism. It is part of my blogging about emotional, verbal or mental abuse this month on this as well as my other blog to raise awareness about non...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 24, 2009, 10:35 pm
Domestic Violence & Disabled Women By Holly A. Devine MSW, Program Director, and Carol Briggs, Outreach Coordinator, Barrier Free Living Domestic Violence Program Domestic Violence is a societal prob...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 24, 2009, 10:13 pm
FROM: NO QUARTER: MSNBC carried a blip of President Obama speaking in New York at a fundraiser. Sadly, the President is up to his old tricks. Remember when he was at a hoity-toity fundraiser in San F...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 24, 2009, 10:09 pm
FROM: NO QUARTER: MSNBC carried a blip of President Obama speaking in New York at a fundraiser. Sadly, the President is up to his old tricks. Remember when he was at a hoity-toity fundraiser in San F...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 23, 2009, 11:28 pm
THE CONTRADICTORY NATURE OF NARCISSISTS EXCERPTS: NO MATURE CONSCIENCE Narcissists lack a mature conscience and seem to be restrained only by fear of being punished or of damaging their reputations -...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 23, 2009, 10:34 pm
Abuse changes the brain. Thank you modern science for proving correct what I have been saying for years. And the more I work with other abuse victims, the more I see proof that this is so. Abuse vi...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 23, 2009, 9:20 pm
Why is every style magazine, fashion website and now health initiative citing this downright ugly woman who looks like she FELL into her closet and then got PUSHED by out as some sort of ultimate fema...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 22, 2009, 11:44 pm
The effects of violence on a victim's health are severe. In addition to the immediate injuries from the assault, battered women may suffer from chronic pain, gastrointestinal disorders, psychosoma...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 22, 2009, 9:59 pm
From this site: Yes, indeedy - another videotape courtesy of James O’Keefe, the “pimp,” and his “prostitute girlfriend,” Hannah Giles, in a Philadelphia ACORN office. Only this time, O’Ke...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 21, 2009, 11:09 pm
------------ Hare's PCL-R 20-item checklist is based on Cleckley's 16-item checklist, and the following is a discussion of the concepts in the PCL-R. But first of all, here is Cleckley's...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 21, 2009, 10:17 pm
By Larry Johnson Last night’s arrest of a U.S. citizen who thought he was spying for Israel is going to unleash a fascinating dynamic. The Washington Post reported this morning: Stewart D. Nozette...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 21, 2009, 5:03 am
(a powerful piece for and about women... everywhere) by Michele Toomey, PhD They said not a word, yet their deafening silence blocked out any sound. They did not stir, but their immobility stopped a...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 19, 2009, 11:58 pm
What is trauma? Trauma involves exposure to a catastrophic event usually of a life threatening or seriously physically threatening nature. Traumatic events include experiences such as having witnessed...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 19, 2009, 9:04 pm
(Remember: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month) I will keep saying as long as I can type and have breath in my body. Victims need to tell. Victims need to talk about it. The only way they...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 18, 2009, 9:04 pm
By: Sara Esther Crispe I'll never forget how I felt the day my gender studies teacher made the claim that there are absolutely no differences between men and women. I looked around, shocked at the...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 17, 2009, 10:07 pm
When I was still a devout Catholic (which I was until my late-30s) the one practice I hated and never could get the "hang" of was the Sacrament of Confession. Why should have to tell my 'sins'...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 17, 2009, 8:40 pm
Maybe if the courts and government refuse to see the danger here, we need to start an Underground Railroad for these girls! A 17-year old girl who fled from her home, fearing her Muslim parents would...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 16, 2009, 2:08 pm
This week, the following column by Andrea Peyser appeared in the NEW YORK POST: Crazy couple's a kick, if they don't kill each other By ANDREA PEYSER These crazy kids just can't keep th...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 15, 2009, 10:05 pm
Let Them Talk Rabbi Mark Dratch JSafe: The Jewish Institute Supporting an Abuse Free Environment “You are not allowed to say negative things,” they are told. “There’s no proof!” The prohib...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 14, 2009, 11:00 pm
Los Angeles Times By Andrea Dworkin Words matter. O.J. Simpson's defense team asked Judge Lance A. Ito to order the prosecution to say domestic discord rather than domestic violence or even spous...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 14, 2009, 10:29 pm
As I have said here repeated, I am healing myself; though it will always be ongoing. Even disabled my overgrown sense of responsibility tells me I need to do some small thing to contribute to society...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 14, 2009, 9:25 pm
By Chelsea Schilling At least 20 American flags with the stars removed from the blue field and President Barack Obama's face inserted are still available on numerous eBay auctions – but, accord...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 13, 2009, 11:10 pm
(from Sex Compulsives Anonymous) Do you frequently experience remorse, depression, or guilt about your sexual activity? Do you feel your sexual drive and activity is getting out of control? Have you...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 13, 2009, 10:06 pm
And so, what do you do if you cannot forgive your abuser? What SHOULD you do? Which party is the obstacle to reconciliation here? You or your abuser? What should you do? Just accept it. It's a ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 13, 2009, 9:36 pm
JUST CLICK HERE ASK THE OBAMA-MAGIC 8-BALL! O.K. So it's the Onion... still closer to the truth than MSNBC or Fox. Obama: Health Care Plan Would Give Seniors Right To Choose How They Are Killed ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 12, 2009, 11:30 pm
by Thomas J. Schumacher, Psy.D., R-CSW Most all of you have had to contend with control freaks. These are those people who insist on having their way in all interactions with you. They wish to set th...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 11, 2009, 11:21 pm
The sexual relationship with the narcissist is most peculiar. Narcissists are exhibitionists and sex is just one further means of being admired to her or him. Intimacy does not exist. You will frequ...
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