Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 21, 2009, 11:07 pm
Domestic Violence Victim Bill of Rights * You have the right NOT to be abused. * You have the right to anger over past abuse. * You have a right to choose to change the situation. * You have ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 20, 2009, 11:12 pm
How Abusers Stage Their Returns While the smooth talk that it takes to get an abused spouse to take them back varies from person to person, there are five major "strategies" that seem to cover most o...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 20, 2009, 9:48 pm
A couple days ago I was sitting at the doctor's office getting a series of bloodwork done when I saw this: On Monday, the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force recommended that doctors delay mammog...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 19, 2009, 11:10 pm
by Kathy Krajco Why do we feel so wronged by the people who believe a narcissist's lies about us? There are a number of reasons, but here is one of the biggest. It's because their credulity ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 19, 2009, 9:01 pm
by Underground Panther in the Sky When I was growing up and I faced people in school on the bus, people who rejected and bullied me, soon I felt strange, like I had been marked. When kids from schoo...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 17, 2009, 11:27 pm
by Sandra Kiume This is a letter to the editor of my local paper that wasn’t published. Slightly modified to be more global. “Hurry up, you fat f***ing bitch,” said the young man. His companio...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 17, 2009, 9:15 pm
ABSOLUTELY CRIMINAL FOR THE U.S.! Uninsured patients with traumatic injuries, such as car crashes, falls and gunshot wounds, were almost twice as likely to die in the hospital as similarly injured pa...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 16, 2009, 11:57 pm
Dr. Maria Hsia Chang, Professor Political Science, University of Nevada In psychology, personality disorders refer to individual traits that reflect ingrained, inflexible, and maladaptive patterns of...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 16, 2009, 5:09 am
The tea party protests continued last week, as Congresswoman Michele Bachmann held an anti-health-care-reform rally on the steps of the Capitol. While she estimated that 20,000-45,000 people attended ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 15, 2009, 11:24 pm
By Lanie Pambid Would you believe that love can be gone in a blink of an eye? Based on facts that I am going to share with you is that it CAN happen. A couple who has been together for a few years w...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 15, 2009, 9:29 pm
This is what happens when abuse victims (ANY kind of abuse, and any religious or cultural background) are silenced!: By SUSAN EDELMAN and KIRSTEN FLEMING A Brooklyn newlywed who jumped to his death...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 14, 2009, 11:03 pm
What are they really doing online? The power of the internet is helping friends, families and loved ones stay more connected than ever. There is a wealth of information and opportunity available on th...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 14, 2009, 10:50 pm
READ THE WHOLE REPORT HERE!
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 14, 2009, 5:07 pm
If you read nothing else today, PLEASE READ DONNA DARKO This appears to be an updated post from August that begins by accounting the history of how the primaries and caucuses were used to skewer The ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 13, 2009, 11:18 pm
The Centerfold Syndrome ------------------------------------------------------------ Psychologist Dr. Gary R. Brooks, in his book, The Centerfold Syndrome: How Men Can Overcome Objectification and Ac...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 13, 2009, 5:41 am
By DENISE GRADY Many people with chronic fatigue syndrome are infected with a little known virus that may cause or at least contribute to their illness, researchers are reporting. The syndrome, whic...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 12, 2009, 9:07 pm
When I believe they're right - I am happy to give these opinions more bandwith on my blog: TERROR IN TEXAS The nation today ponders the irony of the slaughter of US soldiers, not on a battlefield...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 11, 2009, 11:00 pm
Narcissus - Alanis Morissette
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 10, 2009, 11:05 pm
What is a panic attack? Panic attacks are marked by a sudden, very intense episode of fear or anxiety. There is often a feeling of impending disaster, such as dying. Panic attacks come on very suddenl...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 9, 2009, 11:33 pm
What is Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Short Definitions The phrase "betrayal trauma" can be used to refer to a kind of trauma (independent of the reaction to the trauma). E.g. Thi...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 8, 2009, 11:01 pm
Lisa E. Scott, author of "It's All About Him" will continue her discussion with book/messageboard readers on how to avoid or recover from painful relationships with narcissists. In this week's...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 8, 2009, 9:18 pm
My father, of blessed memory, was a respected Lieutenant with the NY State Troopers. And a Type II Diabetic, as was his mother and her whole family. That said, he would never, ever have done this. ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 6, 2009, 11:02 pm
Does your mother try to tell you how to live your life? Or scrutinize every decision you make? Steps: 1. Realize there are reasons why your mother is overbearing and that you won't ever be abl...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 6, 2009, 2:04 pm
As many of you already know, I am not a fan of the current psychobabble 'forgive & forget' model of adult discourse. Some things are unforgiveable. I am always willing to listen, discuss, op...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 6, 2009, 5:16 am
By James Dao Born and reared in Virginia, the son of immigrant parents from a small Palestinian town near Jerusalem, he joined the Army right out of high school, against his parents’ wishes. The Ar...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 5, 2009, 11:36 pm
"Are You Involved With A Psychopath?" Stop The Madness By: Michael G. Conner, Psy.D, Clinical, Medical & Family Psychologist For most of us the idea of a psychopath conjures up images from movies li...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 4, 2009, 10:10 pm
In COMPLETE agreement with UppityWoman here: Here’s a rape victim who confronts that Weasel David Vitter and asks him why he didn’t support the bill that allows a rape victim to confront her rapi...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 3, 2009, 11:55 pm
Calling her dumb, an idiot, stupid is verbal abuse. Putting her down, criticizing her, defeating her in argument for the sake of defeating, not for the sake of mutual enlightenment – this is verbal...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 3, 2009, 11:35 pm
By Amy Norton An unhappy marriage can break a woman's heart, figuratively and literally. New research suggests that married women who are dissatisfied with their relationships face a higher risk ...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 3, 2009, 9:30 pm
I was greatly pleased and not surprised to see this in JPost in Sept. 2007. Israel has been a shining light in healthcare advances for many years. I believe that Israel may cure a number of autoimmu...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 2, 2009, 11:05 pm
The following steps represent my plan for increasing my safety and preparing in advance for the possibility for further violence. Although I do not have control over my partner's violence, I do ha...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Nov 1, 2009, 11:52 pm
Overcoming the Role of Victim or Martyr Ten differences between being a martyr or a victim? 1. Martyrs are people who recognize they are being taken advantage of and choose to remain in the situatio...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 1, 2009, 7:45 pm
SPEAK NO EVIL Goldberg, P.I. investigates lashon hara By Tod Goldberg November 2006, when the Pulitzer Prize board announced that blog posts are now eligible for the award, blogging officially becam...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Nov 1, 2009, 6:36 pm
With difficult state elections and a crucial military decision looming, President Barack Obama sat down with his wife Michelle last month to give an in-depth magazine interview about a subject that ha...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 31, 2009, 11:23 pm
CONTROLLING HER TIME: The abuser controls his partner's time by making her wait. He will say he is ready to talk, but will continue doing something else while his partner waits. He will tell her h...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 30, 2009, 11:02 pm
"Abused women aren’t “codependent.” It is abusers, not their partners, who create abusive relationships." Excerpt: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Lundy Bancr...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 30, 2009, 1:36 pm
From a consistently great & illuminating blogger -- Rabble Rouser Rev. Amy: There has been a great deal of talk and debate about health care in the country recently as the Democrats push Heath Care R...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 30, 2009, 5:16 am
My question - WHY DO THESE PEOPLE MOVE TO THE U.S. IF THEY DON'T LIKE IT? from the awesome Uppity Woman: Arizona police are looking for an Iraqi man who they allege ran down his daughter and h...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 29, 2009, 11:09 pm
Con artists scam because it gives them infinite pleasure to "put one over" on anyone who stands still long enough. The compulsion to scam is so strong that a con artist will produce a scam even if he...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 28, 2009, 11:51 pm
Treating Sexual & Pornographic Addictions Sex & porn addictions require therapists with special training in these areas for patients to have a good chance of recovery. These illnesses are very difficu...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 28, 2009, 9:40 pm
Emotional rape can be defined as: Emotional abuse characterized by patterned and purposeful behavior which purpose is to undermine and control the victim. It is an attack on the victim's persona...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 28, 2009, 9:27 pm
by Ed Morrissey Concerned Women for America has a series of humorous videos highlighting their objections to ObamaCare. They cleverly use one of the most annoying inventions of the modern age, the vo...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 27, 2009, 11:49 pm
Infidelity causes pain and suffering. Sometimes, it becomes a form of emotional violence. By Michael Clanchy and Chris Trotter The Age (Melbourne, Australia), excerpts under "fair use" to encourage...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 27, 2009, 5:48 am
Going public about any abuse you have endured can be a very healing and empowering experience. But it takes caution, thought and courage. Before I went public about some of the abuse I experienced i...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 26, 2009, 11:27 pm
Freedom and Recovery from Cults and Abusive Relationships By Madeleine L. Tobias and Janja Lalich Chapter one excerpts - The Cultic Relationship. Cults may be large or small. What defines them is no...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 26, 2009, 5:18 am
For goodness sake, Rush! I am not a fan of Obambi's (and I am certainly not a fan of yours) but can you just PRETEND to have some journalistic integrity and check things before you bloviate about...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 25, 2009, 11:44 pm
"When Your Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong - Loving or Leaving the Narcissist in Your Life" by Mary Jo Fay Chapter 13 The Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde phenomenon that occurs in relationships with nar...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 24, 2009, 10:49 pm
This article is another gem from Kathy Krajco on Narcissism. It is part of my blogging about emotional, verbal or mental abuse this month on this as well as my other blog to raise awareness about non...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Sanctuary for the Abused - Oct 24, 2009, 10:35 pm
Domestic Violence & Disabled Women By Holly A. Devine MSW, Program Director, and Carol Briggs, Outreach Coordinator, Barrier Free Living Domestic Violence Program Domestic Violence is a societal prob...
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Barbara C. posted an article on Barbara's Tchatzkahs - Oct 24, 2009, 10:13 pm
FROM: NO QUARTER: MSNBC carried a blip of President Obama speaking in New York at a fundraiser. Sadly, the President is up to his old tricks. Remember when he was at a hoity-toity fundraiser in San F...
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