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Help This Dad Find His Kingston Family

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 9, 2012, 6:09 pm
Former Hudson Valley Adoptee Born December 25th, 1976 Searching for His Birthmother While most of the world sees adoption as a good thing, which is forever finding families for unwanted children, I view the system a little differently. As a birthmother who fights for Adoptee Rights, I oft...
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Lessons in International Adoption

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 5, 2012, 11:01 am
Media Attention of Haiti Adoption Sheds Light on Raw Adoption Truths It seemed like the minute I heard about the earthquake in Haiti, the story was linked to adoption. My poor husband, such a news junkie, started clicking away from the channels when an adoption related story came on. I ha...
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Protecting the Privacy of Birthmothers

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 4, 2012, 8:00 pm
Original Birth Certificate Access by Adopted Adults and the Lies of the Adoption Industry I am, quite frankly, sick and tired of the adoption industry pretending to protect me and other birthmothers. I just listened to the wonderful interview of Adult Adoptee Diane Crossfield speak on be...
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Is Your Adoption Agency Ethical?

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jan 28, 2012, 12:07 pm
How are Prospective Adoption Parents Supposed to Know How Ethical an Adoption Agency Really Is? An Inside Look from a Birthmother’s Perspective Adoption is particularly hard because it is never something we really learn about before we find it in our lives. I know...
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Breaking the Birthmother Rules

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jan 26, 2012, 10:00 am
I wrote this in August of 2006. It was for some publication or contest that I don't ever even believe came with a rejection letter. I know it didn't get published, but I think it deserves some time in the light of day. Not much has changed in my views in the last years. Dear Adoptive Parents; I k...
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Why Adoption Kool-Aid Tastes so Good!

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jan 23, 2012, 3:03 pm
A Look at Birthmothers, Decision Making, and Denial It was close to 10 years ago, if not more the first time I was called out on being a birthmother in denial. Max was only 13 and years away from being found and I was new to the adoption community online. I was still saying things like "...
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Who Wants to Be a Birthmother?

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jan 19, 2012, 7:55 pm
What's in a Word: Birthmother I was asked to write a piece about why mothers who relinquished children to adoption might be upset by the use of the word birthmother by Adoption Mosaic. 700 words on a topic I know quite well, so I said no problem. And then I struggled. About 16 revision...
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Adoption: Broken Ornaments

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Dec 19, 2011, 11:31 pm
This post was orginally writen in Dec 2010 for GIMH: The Christmas Tree and Family Traditions One would not think that a middle class family on suburban Long Island would be trend setters. In many ways, my family was quite unremarkable. My father was a NYC police Li...
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Adoptees and Sisters Reality Show Casting Call

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Dec 2, 2011, 5:56 pm
Prime Time Reality Show Looking for Adoptees and their Sisters I'm just a passing this on....I DO encourage peope to DO these sorts of things, not becasue you want to be on TV, but becasue the more TURE stories out there.. the more it helps. PLEASE remember to SU...
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#AdoptionChat on Twitter Deemed a Success!

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Nov 27, 2011, 6:28 pm
For a first time chat dreamed up in a week; I am very pleased to say that this was a GREAT Tweet Chat! I knew we had it in us! In about 90 minutes, we tweeted over 288 times about adoption issues. And yes, one can have an in depth conversation with only 140 characters! Next Tweeting @Adop...
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#AdoptionChat on Twitter

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Nov 21, 2011, 10:37 pm
Real Time Chats About Adoption on TwitterIn the social media world, Twitter Chats are a huge thing where at a selected time and date, people get together on Twitter in real time and chat. It's kind of like the good old fashioned chat rooms of our old favorite forums, except that you have to get your...
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When a Signature Changes Your Life: Relinquishment

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Nov 21, 2011, 10:28 pm
I'm in the midst of it all: Adoption Trauma week or better known the Season of Max. So here it is; it's November. The week from hell. Trying to remain "normal", but feeling so very tightly strung up as if I could break or snap at any moment. Tired, impatient, restless, annoyed...
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A Good Birthmom

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Oct 25, 2011, 9:11 pm
How to Describe Life as BirthMother?I love it when someone else reaches inside and pulls out their heart to show us. This is a good read. Well done. This part: “…it was too hard for her to feel so much, and she has let go now. We know each other, but we pretend ...
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Adoption and Halloween

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Oct 25, 2011, 12:06 am
It's no secret that I LOVE Halloween. We spend weeks decorating. Seriously, I used to control myself until October 1st, now it's back to school and get out the Halloween boxes. I actually spin the spider webs on my porch like a spider would. It takes me hours. I don't eve...
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Dental Care for the 99%

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Oct 19, 2011, 11:17 pm
#Occupy Kingston Fights Back with the BEST DENTIST EVER!I might be living on the Wall Street in Kingston, New York; but for over 30 days now my heart has been on the OTHER Wall Street in NY. It's firmly there, occupying, protesting and standing up for being one of the 99%. People say that the prote...
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Buring Down a House, Losing a Soul

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Sep 6, 2011, 9:53 pm
Uptown Kingston Fire 181 Wall StreetMy street feels like it is in mourning. This past Monday there was a fire in a house down the street in the middle of a beautiful post Hurricane Irene afternoon. Only a half hour before the fire broke out, Rye called me at work to say that h...
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The 2011 Adoptee Rights Video

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Sep 1, 2011, 11:55 pm
Without the San Antonio Heat! Long at last! I know.. it took me FOREVER, but here is the next best thing to being at the Adoptee Rights Protest. It does not due it justice, so all I can say is... START PLANNING TO CHICAGO IN 2012 NOW!!!! ...
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Travel Completed: I Have Arrived in San Antonio for the Adoptee Rights Demonstration

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Aug 8, 2011, 3:50 am
Fourteen hours of traveling is completed. A grand total for three different buses, 2 planes, 3 flights, 6 cites (Kingston to NYC to Newark to St. Louis to Dallas to San Antonio) and about one hour sleep... Worked out exactly as I planned. In fact, it probably could not have gone better. I...
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On the Road to the Adoptee Rights Protest 2011: San Antonio Texas

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Aug 6, 2011, 3:38 pm
It's almost 2am and I have a 6am flight out of Newark. I hate early morning flights, but I search and priced tickets for 6 months and I did a round trip on Southwest for.. Under 240? So 6am it is. Once agin, the start of my Adoptee Rights Protest adventure starts with being up all night! I do miss t...
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National Adoptee Rights Group Travels To Texas to Free Original Birth Certificates

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jul 24, 2011, 7:01 pm
American Adoptees Denied Civil Rights to Birth CertificateDue to archaic laws that are a legacy of cultural shame stigmatizing infertility, sex, unwed mothers, and adoption, over 90% of all American adoptees will face a life of discrimination unless current laws are changed. Wanting to en...
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Make it OK for Adoptees in OK

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - May 18, 2011, 4:48 pm
I was wondering if some first mother's would mind writing a quick email to the Oklahoma legislators below and please point out that as first mothers you were not "promised" confidentiality, but that it was enforced upon you when you relinquished your children. They are trying...
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Screw Birthmother's Day! I am Officially Rebeling!

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - May 17, 2011, 7:36 pm
So, Tomorrow is Officially Birthmother's Day. You know that that they give us to keep us separated from the "real" mothers of the world. Because, as you should know, it takes more than just giving birth to make a person a real mother. And being a birthmother, all we do is make the babies and give aw...
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Finding Normal; Visits with Adopted Siblings

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - May 17, 2011, 7:36 pm
Last Minute Plans and Adoption VisitsThis post is dedicated to the lovely Miss Doom, whom was not only the inspiration and catayst of the whole visit, but also, quite a trooper. She gets my "Favorite Person of the Week" Award! Maybe it just had to be like this. No ...
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Adoptee Rock Wilk Coming to the Hudson Valley

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Apr 29, 2011, 11:15 pm
Kingston Receiving an Emotional Journey of Adoption TruthI love it when the universe comes to a full circle. When I was working on the Blondie Music Video I got to talking to the one of the producers of the local Kingston venue where the video was shot . Now Hudson Valley loc...
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Finding My Andy Warhol

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Apr 18, 2011, 10:33 pm
My 80's Club Scenes, CBGB's, Music Videos and Blondie WeekendIn the days before my birthday, it's pretty natural to find myself deeply introverted and taking stock of the almost 43 years that have made up my life so far. While some years are better than others, I often think back to the person that ...
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Jeep Knows Bloodlines Matter

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Apr 14, 2011, 9:03 pm
Perhaps Jeep Could Sponsor Adoptee Rights? We all have a bloodline, but it takes a bold spirit to say...... Give Me Access to my Original Birth Certifcate! Dear Folks at Jeep, I dearly love your new commercia...
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When Only the Rich Deserve to Have Sex

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Apr 11, 2011, 11:31 pm
Rye is a news junkie and sometimes I just have to be a pain and make him turn it off. As much as I love a good Rachel Maddow snarky fest, sometimes I just cannot take how incredible STUPID our elect politicians in Washington can be. It's almost harder to watch their antics on TRMS or on Jon Stewart ...
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Adoptee Rights Legislations & Open Records

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 14, 2011, 9:10 pm
Restore Unrestricted Equal Access & No One Left BehindOne of the major problems in the adoption community is that there is lots of disagreement. After all, adoption is a very emotional subject and one that really incites deep passions and strong beliefs. I'm not even talking about the most obvious ...
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A Gift for the Adoption Community!

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 7, 2011, 10:30 pm
Adoption News and Events on FacebookSo there is a new Facebook Page for Adoption called Adoption News and Events There is a bunch of people from around the adoption community already putting up links to what they find online having to do with adoption. Yes, I picked people who...
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Adoption Commentary Craw Exposed

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 6, 2011, 11:47 pm
AKA How to Piss Off a ClaudI haven't felt the need to do this in a while. Usually, I don't let other people's comments get under my craw. After all, I have been online talking about adoption issues for ten years now and I had a rather thick skin to begin with. Rather than beat a person over the head...
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Adoptee Records New York Event

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 6, 2011, 11:46 pm
I'm leaning towards going to this... The Evan B Donaldson Adoption Institute is holding an event on March 10, 2011, to "heighten public, media and policymaker awareness about the need to restore adopted adults' right to access their original birth certificates." ...
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Musings of the Lame Blog Redesign

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 6, 2011, 11:46 pm
I'll be overhauling a few things here. It's time. I need to add pages and I think I shall move to black text on a white background. That's huge for me. In the meantime, I have confirmed that all the old graphics images from here were lost in a laptop crash. I have 18 versions o...
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Musings of the Lame: Help Wanted

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Mar 6, 2011, 11:46 pm
Adoption Communication IdeasIn the midst of redesign hell here, my brain is moving much faster than my writing of coding skills. However, I have a really good idea of where I want to go with this and how. Guest Blog PostsI can only tell my story so many times and I think I hav...
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New Toginet Radio: Listening to Birthmothers

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 23, 2011, 6:01 pm
I was asked to appear on Adoption Journey to Motherhood an internet radio podcast show this past Monday morning. The weekedn was crazy ( as usualy) so I didn"t get a chnce to get this up before, but you can grab the podcast here: The New Toginet Radio - Adoption Journey to Motherhood&#...
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Blog Talk Radio: Candid Adoption Talk Live

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 12, 2011, 10:38 am
I'll be on Candid Adoption Talk Live with Cathie Hanlon in about 20 minutes! You can listen here.. I think.. new widget.. bare with me! Listen to internet radio with Cathiehanlon on Blog Talk Radio If there ...
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Related by Birth: An Adoption Documentary

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Feb 5, 2011, 12:36 am
Last year, I was contacted to be interviewed for a documentary about birthmothers. It's always hard to completely go back there and even with the emotional support provide, it's not pleasant. Yet, sometimes you have to take the chance and do the hard stuff. I figure, no one will hear us if we sit in...
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Ophah Winfrey Joins the Adoption Community

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jan 31, 2011, 11:30 pm
The Adoption Community Rejoices at the Hope of Oprah Giving Adoption a True VoiceDear Oprah, Welcome to the Adoption Community! I know you didn't plan on being one of us, but I have seen that often adoption sneaks up on people. I don't think many of us actually plan on being ...
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Eleventh Annual Christmas Eve Candle Lighting

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Dec 21, 2010, 11:03 pm
I wanted to share this.. As the world lights candles in preparation to celebrate the birth of a child who changed the course of history on Christmas Eve, New England Firstmothers and over 500 members of the Sunflower Sisters will celebrate Christmas Eve by lighting a candle in memory of ...
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Christmas Traditions and Being a Birthmother

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Dec 4, 2010, 2:28 pm
I have a new post up at the other blog, GIMH; Since my writing time has been precious as of late, I wanted to share it here to. Adoption: Broken Ornaments Here's a little teaser to get you clicking that link. The theme was "Traditions": ...
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The Loss of Betty Jean Lifton

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Nov 22, 2010, 8:03 pm
One cannot begin to understand the truths about adoption and to gain insight into the life of those adopted without hearing about the writings of BJ Lifton. How many times have I heard an adoptee credit her books as a pivotal point in feeling understood or coming to terms regarding their own life ex...
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Talking to Myself

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Nov 14, 2010, 8:46 pm
I couldn't sleep last night. We had spent the whole day in the mountains of the Shawangunks Mountains, hiking with the kids, and then they elected to stay over Grandma's so Rye and I had a sudden night free. So we meandered back through town, stopping along the wa...
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Mothers Finally Teaching the Professionals in Adoption

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Aug 12, 2010, 9:32 pm
I don't know why I haven't written about this before. I guess things have just been crazy busy this year and until now, it just has not been on my radar. An Academic Adoption Conference in NYAnyway back in the end of March I ran across a link to Sixth Biennial Adoption Conference - Open ...
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BlogHer '10 Recap: What I Learned

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Aug 11, 2010, 11:36 pm
About Myself, About Judgment, About Adoption, About the World. As I said a lot this past weekend at BlogHer '10 in New York City, I wore a lot of hats. Part of me went to BlogHer as the Dragon Search Social Media Queen and I have a "Marketer's View of BlogHer" over at the work blog, but part of me w...
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In Case You Missed It: the 2010 Adoptee Rights Protest

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Aug 10, 2010, 1:02 am
About four and half minutes, it's almost like being there! "cept the hugs are virtual! I swear I picked the music becasue it fit the "feel" that I wanted, but wow, what do you think of the lyrics? Led Zep...
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Claud Attends the Adoptee Rights Protest Louisville Kentucky 2010

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jul 29, 2010, 8:52 am
1 week travelling over 2000 miles in the Bastardmobile on 30 hours sleep!The Adoptee Rights Demonstration is really one of my favorite events of the year and it keeps getting better and better! There is no way I can adequately describe the sum of the experience, but I shall; try.. I shall try! ...
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Birthmother In Jail: Genetic Sexual Attraction to Blame

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jul 15, 2010, 7:00 pm
Adoption Relinquishment Can Cause Sexual Feelings and ConfusionThe New York Daily News has a story about a mother sent to prison after having sex with teen son she gave up for adoption. The comments, which currently rest at 135 are particularly cruel calling her many various names such as: disgustin...
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What Are Mothers DOING to Each Other?

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jul 14, 2010, 12:32 pm
The Ugly Mythology of Motherhood TodayA few weeks ago, we met up with some friends who have a lovely child who is just about two. The mom and I were talking about the inevitable "terrible twos" and her concerns that her daughter hits. I was in my soothing "older mom been there done that" role and wa...
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The Truth of Annette Baran

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jul 12, 2010, 10:19 pm
Annette Baren, co-author of The Adoption Triangle, passed away on July 11, 2010. I know some people see her as a contributor to the adoption industry, but I believe that her views in this 5 part video interview speaks as to why her death is a great loss for anyone caring about adoption re...
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Free CD's For Adoptee Rights

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jun 16, 2010, 9:51 pm
Tweet for Mary Gauthier's The Foundling I have 6 copies of Adoptee Mary Gauthier's The Foundling to give away for free, but you have to Tweet for them! Let me explain... When I first heard of Mary Gauthier and her upcoming CD release titled The Foundling...
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Free Adoption Records: Open the Secrets in New York - part 3

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy posted an article on Musings of the Lame: A Blog about Adoption and Life as a Birthmother - Jun 9, 2010, 6:34 pm
The history of sealed adoption records in the US and the current battle in New York's legislation to free them open. Since, my little blog here is now featured in the local Kingston paper online, I thought it would be most fitting to re-publish this piece I wrote specifically about New Yo...
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About Me

I am a profesional Sybil; also known as Director of Social Media at DragonSearch Marketing so I get to spend my whole day on Facebook and Twitter and Writing Blog posts! I am an activist , rabble rouser and letter writer who adores lobbying and getting in our elected officals faces I am a broke armed poster child for National Health Care. I am a former wild child goth chick from the 80's who makes beautiful children, loves walking to work and just tries to fly below the radar.
Oh, and I lost my oldest child to adoption in 1987. You can call me a birthmother, but I am just a mother.