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Feb 9, 2012, 12:19 pm
The purpose of Relaxation Thursdays is to create some healthy habits to keep you calm and relaxed. One of the most insidious habits we have is negative self talk. We create a certain tape in our head that we run on an endless loop. The tape contains such oldies but goodies as, ‘It’s never going ... Comment - Like
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Feb 8, 2012, 1:27 pm
Life happens. Sometimes, when life is lifing at you, it’s seems so hard to feel safe. You feel small, invisible, buffeted around and generally a victim of the whims of fate. You wake up thinking, ‘what next?’ Or you wait for the other shoe to fall. In a marriage, you will have times like these... Comment - Like
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Feb 7, 2012, 1:11 pm
Since we write a relationship advice blog, we realize that the simple answer might not be as simple as it seems. The simple answer to the question of how to have a great relationship is communication. How do you have a well-adjusted child? Self-esteem. See, easy one word (with a hyphen) answers. Of... Comment - Like
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Feb 6, 2012, 12:47 pm
Life happens. Life is full of highs and lows and lots of the same stuff day-in and day-out. When you are married or in a long term relationship, we try not to think of the possible crises. We avoid the subject of how you will deal with lows because they are too scary. The truth of the matter is that... Comment - Like
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Feb 5, 2012, 1:34 pm
Here is a topic that we never thought we would spend so much time pondering: our feet. Really, our feet hurt but they are feeling better now. You see, we moved from Miami, Florida to Big Bear, California and it has had an effect on our feet. Comment - Like
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Feb 4, 2012, 7:01 am
Medicine can be expensive and, more importantly, medicine is important. This isn’t something that you can choose to do without. Sure, you can tough out a cold but your heart medicine is a little bit more pressing. Comment - Like
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Feb 2, 2012, 3:00 am
We have faith in humanity. We believe people would choose to be relaxed rather than anxious, panicked and stressed. Unfortunately, we are not trained to maintain a stress-free life. We are not trained to find the calm in the storm or make choices that would keep our lives on an even keel. These same... Comment - Like
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Feb 1, 2012, 3:00 am
On Monday we began to share the age old secrets of how to get the man of your dreams. Yesterday we shared more pearls of wisdom. Today, women are confused. What, there is no magic potion? Hip gyration? Or perhaps, Vulcan vagina grab that will bend a man’s will? Comment - Like
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Jan 31, 2012, 3:00 am
Life is too short to not have what you want. This is why CoupleDumb is sharing THE 10 WAYS TO GET A MAN! This list was found on stone tablets not too far from the Dead Sea Scrolls and the next cave over from the original blueprints to the ancient Thigh Master. Comment - Like
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Jan 30, 2012, 12:56 pm
What’s the secret? What are the fabled instructions on some stone tablets found in some cave in the Middle East that have been lost to time? What does a woman have to do, or be, to get the man of her dreams? Comment - Like
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Jan 26, 2012, 3:00 am
We have been discussing breathing this month. The breath is such a simple thing and yet everything we do depends on it. We can do nothing without it. As we mentioned a couple of weeks ago, most people don’t take a deep breath all day! No wonder we get tired! Comment - Like
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Jan 25, 2012, 3:00 am
Why…..Is the hardest thing you ever have to answer. ‘Why’ is the root cause, the impetus, the answer to the riddle… ‘Why’ we do anything has been the question since the beginning of recorded time. In fact, there is a whole school of thought in psychology that says, ‘forget why, just fo... Comment - Like
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Jan 24, 2012, 3:00 am
So you look across the table and decide that you really like this person that you have been dating now for 1, 3 or 15 weeks. Yes, you know that you are going to ‘give it up’ at some point with this person. So the big question becomes, when. When is it too early? We have a name for women who drop... Comment - Like
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Jan 21, 2012, 5:39 pm
We are taking on Divorce on Relationship Rehab! Its a New Year and we are feisty! See you on 2/3/2012 at 12pmET. Chat Live! Comment - Like
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Jan 21, 2012, 3:30 pm
We started looking at this chore chart for kids and teens. The bottom line answer is that this is wonderful but there is a lot of discussion before we can get to the bottom line. First we need to be on the same page with the idea of discipline. Discipline is not punishment. When we talk about discip... Comment - Like
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Jan 19, 2012, 3:00 am
The breath is the basis for life. We breathe in life and exhale waste. When we really start focusing on breathing, we realize all the things we do related to the breath and emotions. There is the gasp of surprise. There is the sigh which is a long exhalation. There is the panic hyperventilation. The... Comment - Like
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Jan 18, 2012, 10:22 pm
So, you just got a divorce. It is January, after all. This is national divorce month. You have tried to be civil. You have tried to be rational but let’s face it, if a hole opened in the ground and sucked your ex down into hell where the scum belongs, you would not be crushed. Yes, you still have ... Comment - Like
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Nov 1, 2011, 1:38 pm
Let’s say that words have energy. Let’s say that when we use certain words, certain frequencies are attached to said words. Some words have a positive charge and some have a negative charge. Then, for the sake of this post, we can also look at words that we use on a daily basis that have that en... Comment - Like
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Oct 31, 2011, 12:30 pm
What opinion do you have when you see a person who is chipper? What is your judgment of a person who is claims to be happy? These answers to these questions are the foundation to the age old question: Why can’t I be happy? Comment - Like
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Oct 30, 2011, 4:11 pm
We are all looking for money saving tips but do we actually follow them? Money saving and budgeting fall into the same category as diet and exercise. I had every intention of waking up this morning and exercising. My idea was to have a nice healthy, cheap salad for dinner. I can’t seem to get movi... Comment - Like
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Oct 28, 2011, 1:26 pm
Attitude is everything.CoupleDumb talks about attitude on Relationship Rehab. Comment - Like
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Oct 26, 2011, 3:00 am
As parents, we spend so much time worrying if our kids are eating right, sleeping enough, socializing enough, studying enough, playing enough and whatever else enough that we often forget to ask them how they are. We have found that there are many factors to raising happy kids. But the foundation to... Comment - Like
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Oct 25, 2011, 11:20 am
There are a million different things to judge in your life. Is my house nice or not? Are my friends good or not? Is my job satisfying or not? Is my life what I want it to be or not? The bottom line with all of our judgments is our attitude. Attitude is the foundation to everything we do, feel, and s... Comment - Like
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Oct 25, 2011, 8:03 am
It’s time for us to start looking at our money. You know how we think. We do not worry about money. We make positive rational intentions for our money and our futures and then they manifest. We use tools like a saving account interest calculator figure out what kind of target income and savings we... Comment - Like
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Oct 22, 2011, 12:34 pm
Marriage is not that hard. Marriage, in fact, can be very easy. However, it seems that those with mediocre and failed marriages get most of the press and apparently their misinformation is more acceptable than the experiences of people with happy, healthy marriages. We continue to listen to so-calle... Comment - Like
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Oct 19, 2011, 12:00 am
Recently, we saw this list of things you can do to stay married. The list was cluttered with low expectations, compromised dreams and a shitload of sad complacency. Let’s give you a hint: THAT DOESN’T WORK! Sitting around thinking that Mr. O.K. is more realistic than Mr. Right is the first step ... Comment - Like
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Oct 18, 2011, 12:00 am
We are debating how to start this post out. We can say that, because of our belief in gender equality, this is the follow up to what Lee wrote yesterday. Or we can go with ‘Bitches be whack’ which speaks better to Paul’s central core of manhood. You make the call. Comment - Like
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Oct 17, 2011, 2:09 pm
We are relaunching Dysaffirmation.com with games, horoscope and new dysaffirmations. But, best of all, we have a contest where you can win all kinds of cool things including an immersion blender. Click here to take a look. linkscolor = "000000"; highlightscolor = "888888"; backgroundcolor = "FFFFFF"... Comment - Like
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Oct 17, 2011, 12:00 am
Some bozo said a long time ago that men were from a certain planet and women from another. He talked about how men needed space and that women needed to shut up and give it them. CoupleDumb has, on many occasions, shared our opinion of this theory which is easily summarized in one word: Bullshit! Ho... Comment - Like
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Oct 12, 2011, 12:24 pm
Americans are isolationists. At least that is what we were taught in high school. Admittedly, Texas may be drafting a new educational curriculum that portrays the United States as the Florence Nightingale of the world, tripping around hand-in-hand with Mexico and Canada, passing out flowers and sand... Comment - Like
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Oct 11, 2011, 12:00 am
According to Larry D Rosen, PhD, professor of Psychology at Cal State University, Dominguez Hills, adolescents who use social media and are not monitored by their parents tend to be less healthy, narcissistic and have poor school performance than those adolescents who have their computer use monitor... Comment - Like
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Oct 10, 2011, 12:34 pm
Last night we were at our Godson’s birthday party. One of his friends is a bright young man who came late because he was studying. We asked what he was studying and he said, ‘I was reading about globalization.’ At this point he quickly stopped himself and looked up and said, ‘I’m sorry. Do... Comment - Like
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Oct 6, 2011, 12:21 pm
Sex- it is as easy as insert this into that. Sex- it is the most complicated human endeavor ever created. Sex- it is a chore. Sex- there is never enough of it. Sex- has too many rules. Sex- is a game for the young. Sex- should be used only for procreation. Sex- diminishes in marriage. Sex- needs to ... Comment - Like
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Oct 5, 2011, 11:18 am
A man’s sexual dysfunction is obvious. A woman’s sexual dysfunction is something that can be painful, disturbing and highly suspect. According to the Mayo Clinic, females suffering from sexual dysfunction is not altogether uncommon. In fact, if you suffer from lack of desire or sexual response, ... Comment - Like
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Oct 5, 2011, 12:00 am
We like our holidays stress free. To achieve that monumental goal, we plan early! Here are a few tips to keep the winter holidays enjoyable and memorable. Comment - Like
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Sep 28, 2011, 12:00 am
Mom and Dad’s worry about a lot of things. Mom’s worry about whether you are warm enough or are eating the right foods. Dad’s worry about whether the windows are locked and if the tires have the right air pressure. Ultimately, the worrying is all the same; is my kid safe? This starts the momen... Comment - Like
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Sep 27, 2011, 11:15 am
Are your kids argumentative? Do your children say black when you say white? Do your kids like to suck the life out of every happy experience because they are contrary or adolescent or just can’t admit when they are wrong? Yep, ours too! Even though this is incredibly uncomfortable and frustrating,... Comment - Like
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Sep 27, 2011, 12:00 am
The reasons for owning a watch have changed drastically over the years. Watches as a timepiece are no longer as necessary as they were in, say, the 1800’s. If you were a proper gentleman or lady of the turn of the century, the only hope of knowing the time came from your own personal timepiece or ... Comment - Like
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Sep 26, 2011, 1:21 pm
If you go by the modern wisdom provided by the media (ie. TV, Film, Book), one would assume that conflict is normal. A person watching a sitcom would assume that couples arguing over benign, banal and boring stuff is part of being in relationship. A passerby seeing or overhearing a couple fighting o... Comment - Like
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Sep 22, 2011, 11:15 am
I’m holding back saying what I really want to say because this is my first guest post. I want to make a good impression and do not want to ruffle any feathers if you know what I mean. But, seriously, I need to get something off my chest and I would love to get your feedback from this posting, so h... Comment - Like
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Sep 21, 2011, 12:00 am
I will never say I’m perfect. I think I have a great family but no family is without their faults. In my case, I think having my parents made my life better in so many ways. For one, I learned to be a risk taker from them. That has served me throughout my life. However, there are a myriad of thing... Comment - Like
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Sep 19, 2011, 12:30 pm
What are you pretending not to know? Being stuck on stupid is not a good place to be. We here at CoupleDumb know that using the ‘s’ word is bad form and we are completely open to a better vocabulary that holds the gravitas as STUPID! To clarify, this is what we define as stupid: knowing you have... Comment - Like
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Sep 15, 2011, 12:49 pm
Do you know what you call too much pride? Narcissism! It is good to have a healthy self esteem. It is a good thing to value yourself and to feel you are worthy of good things. It is good to appreciate yourself, mind, body and spirit, as a gift to the world; unique like everyone else. However, there ... Comment - Like
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Sep 14, 2011, 12:53 pm
I have a kid in college, another is the star of second grade and the youngest is brilliant. I am so proud of each of them. I am filled with admiration and appreciation for the incredible human beings I have the honor of parenting. Pride in children is a beautiful thing. The line between pride in you... Comment - Like
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Sep 12, 2011, 3:00 am
Pride is defined as ‘a high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc. (Dictionary.com)’. They also mention self-esteem and self respect. CoupleDumb would refer Dictionary.com to its fi... Comment - Like
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Sep 6, 2011, 11:39 am
Cougars. There is something feral about the term, ‘Cougars’. It conjures up images of young, supple men lounging on the savannah and some vicious cat beast stalking, chasing and mounting the witless victim. Whereas a man dating a younger woman is called a stud (or as Paul said, Pig), a woman is ... Comment - Like
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Sep 3, 2011, 2:28 pm
As you may have read or heard or seen on this site, we just moved. It wasn’t one of those ‘down the street’ kind of moves. It wasn’t a move to nicer neighborhood or bigger house. We moved from one side of the United States to another. As if that wasn’t enough, we moved from Miami where the... Comment - Like
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