Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Dec 4, 2009, 11:11 pm
“We carve out risk-free lives where nothing happens.”  James Hillman, psychologist If we live all the days between 0 and 80 it is less than 30,000 days. Which really doesn’t sound ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 27, 2009, 8:11 pm
“Depression opens the door to beauty of some kind.”  James Hillman, psychologist Curiosity, music and exercise are three of the smallest stepping-stones to help someone climb out of the ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 19, 2009, 11:20 pm
It is a sad truth that fifty percent of marriages end up in divorce. Women are the ones who leave. Seventy five percent of divorce is initiated by women. There are so many reasons a relationship will ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 16, 2009, 11:10 pm
Junot Diaz spoke at Drue Heinz lectures tonight and it was a very rewarding. He talked about his immigrant experience at the age of six from the Dominican Republic to New Jersey. A member of the audie...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 15, 2009, 7:31 pm
I started a group that meets monthly to watch independent films that are not widely released. I purchase these films by subscribing to www.filmmovement.com. In two and a half years the best one weR...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 14, 2009, 8:12 pm
Obsessiveness erases the other person. It can’t be love if you are so swamped in your own beliefs that you really have no idea that the other person feels differently. Obsessiveness means someon...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Nov 7, 2009, 3:10 pm
Mothers worry a lot when their  adult children begin therapy. There is a cultural perception that problems must be all mom’s fault. The truth is ALL mothers have strengths and weaknesses. We ar...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Oct 27, 2009, 11:20 pm
If you grew up unable to trust one parent in childhood it makes things difficult to figure out in the present. If you grew up unable to trust two parents in childhood it means trust can be a complete ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Oct 26, 2009, 10:34 am
Some people get the happy childhood, some people get a life-long relationship, some people get kids, some people get jobs they love, some people live near the beach, some people have close relationshi...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Oct 18, 2009, 9:03 pm
It’s important for kids to have enough space to grow into greater independence. Like my work, parents are supposed to do themselves out of the job. With all of our technology it is tempting to c...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Oct 8, 2009, 9:15 pm
One of the hardest aspects of anxiety is that people find themselves drowning in ambivalence. According to dictionary.com ambivalence is “uncertainty or fluctuation, esp. when caused by an inabi...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Oct 3, 2009, 2:54 pm
“The broadly engaged mind is the source of a happy life.” Bromo in That Old Ace in the Hole by Annie Proulx Once again, fine literature offers an answer so illusive to far too many. Ofte...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Sep 22, 2009, 9:09 pm
“People who suffer a lot, often times do so, because they are cognitively wrong about what they think they have a right to expect.”  Abraham Maslow, psychologist   Elizabeth Gilbert of...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Sep 20, 2009, 4:02 pm
When we’re angry, the majority of us don’t hurt strangers, we go home and hurt the people we care most about. All of us have a lot to learn about anger and too many don’t bother to ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Sep 18, 2009, 7:38 am
If someone is single a long time they are used to having things work in a certain way. If two people fall in love later in life it will require more sacrifice than either person realizes or is prepare...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Sep 8, 2009, 10:19 pm
My very first blog entry on Feb.12th was 20 Things to be Wary of When Dating.  This is about the positive things to look for.  1. Do They Say What They Mean and Mean What They Say? This is the mos...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Sep 4, 2009, 9:49 pm
Transitions are always uncomfortable for everyone. In order to grow it is important to tolerate the discomfort, that is an ordinary part of transitions. It was the school bus driver in kindergarten, w...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 29, 2009, 9:53 pm
There is a common pattern in heterosexual couples that is deadly to growth and progress. Women come into the office, with a number of issues, that build up into an emotional intensity that leaves male...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 24, 2009, 11:27 pm
The couples that can be toughest to work with, are those where someone has to be right, because then problems are about who wins and who loses instead of how to negotiate to take care of both people. ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 20, 2009, 5:05 am
I am a therapist in part, because I love people’s stories. It is an honor to be an intimate part of someones life struggles. This desire carries over into my theatre choices and my reading. I...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 17, 2009, 5:00 am
Hopefully the positive side of the recession will be that couples learn to talk about money. This year alone, I had three wives taken completely by surprise when a sheriff foreclosure sign was put on ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 11, 2009, 11:54 pm

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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 7, 2009, 11:14 am
I love vacations at Chautauqua Institution because there is the opportunity to go to lectures. Lectures are important to me because I love new ideas and other ways of thinking. On August 3rd we heard ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Aug 4, 2009, 4:07 pm
It seems I meet more and more people who are comfortable with taking the easy way out, like water seeking a down hill path. Teens who avoid looking for a summer job. Teens who casually announce they ...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Jul 29, 2009, 9:38 pm
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of believing that feelings contain the secrets of your life. The truth is feelings are often exaggerated, deceitful, deceptive, defensive,indulgent, tricky, se...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Jul 27, 2009, 12:11 am
Guilt is a complicated business because there are two sides to it. Of course, there is a good aspect to guilt. Guilt is supposed to be a pinch to remind us to do the right thing even if we don’...
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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Jul 20, 2009, 6:00 am

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Rhoda M. posted an article on Relationship Realities - Jul 15, 2009, 1:50 pm

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