Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Jul 15, 2011, 1:45 pm
Dressing for a first date can be a little daunting.  You want to look your best, and wear something that makes you feel beautiful and sexy.  For many women it can be hard to decide when that “sexy outfit” starts to look sleazy rather than sexy. We see celebrities all the time wearing gowns on...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jul 14, 2011, 10:46 am
The most popular questions that women ask on our relationship forum always center around when or if the man in their lives will marry them.  Many women tell us that they just want to honestly know if the constant promises that they will get married “some day” really means that they stand a chan...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Jun 24, 2011, 9:39 am
Computers, social media and cell phones make communication easier than ever before, but they also make it difficult for many people to determine when their cyber communication crosses over into being  inappropriate or even cyber cheating.  LuvemOrLeavem’s Advice Panel vloggers share their tips f...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jun 22, 2011, 11:59 am
One big advantage of moderating a relationship advice forum is that I get to discover trends among the stories that are shared with us.  One trend that I’ve been following for a while is to uncover how far into a relationship that couples tend to go through various milestones that either lead to ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jun 10, 2011, 12:55 pm
All couples argue sometimes, but couples who have successful long term relationships have learned to minimize the frequency and intensity of their arguments.  Couples learn to pick and choose their battles, as well as communicating better avoid those misunderstandings that turn into arguments.  D...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Jun 9, 2011, 12:58 pm
What do you do when your best friend or your spouse’s best friend hits hard times and wants to move in with you? We all want to help our friends, but having a house guest for an indefinite amount of time is a surefire way to create all sorts of tension between you and your spouse. See what Luvem...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - May 27, 2011, 3:59 pm
Nearly everyone knows at least one boomerang couple.  They’re that on again off again pair that are constantly in the process of either breaking up or getting back together.  In fact, if you only see this couple every so often, you’ve probably missed multiple break ups since the last time y...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - May 19, 2011, 4:43 pm
You and your boyfriend have talked about getting married but haven’t tied the not yet.  Finding out that you are pregnant when you’re unmarried can leave you very confused about where ther two of you stand regarding marriage. Women are often torn between wanting to be married before the baby ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - May 18, 2011, 3:38 pm
As this year’s wedding season progresses, conversations about when long term boyfriends will propose have kicked into high gear.  There is something about seeing friends get married that makes even the most patient woman contemplate taking action to speed up the proposal process.  The worst p...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - May 9, 2011, 7:42 pm
When women list their reasons for remaining in a relationship that is either stalled or has started to head downhill, the first reason on their list is often ”he’s my perfect match” or “we’re just perfect for each other.”  In most cases, “perfect match” is often code for “we�...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - May 4, 2011, 10:29 am
Most women will tell you that they absolutely would never date a married man.  Their answer is not so definite when they are asked if they would date a married man who is separated even though he is technically a married man until he is officially divorced.  So, is the status of being separated a ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Apr 29, 2011, 8:18 pm
This week’s post is from dating blogger Tinzley Bradford.  Tinzley shares her tips to help you decide if you can rekindle a relationship with your ex.  It can be tempting  to reunite with someone from your past.  There’s the opportunity to bypass that “getting to know you” stage of datin...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Apr 21, 2011, 5:12 pm
At some point nearly every woman pictures what her ideal wedding will be like. Some women form these notions when they are little girls, while others only start thinking about weddings once they have met a man that they want to marry. All the buzz about the upcoming wedding between Prince William an...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Apr 20, 2011, 12:21 pm
Knowing when to end a relationship can be much more difficult than it sounds.  The timing may be obvious if you if you are miserable in your relationship, but it is not so simple if you are in a relationship that leaves you feeling somewhere in between happy and unhappy.  Deciding if your relation...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Apr 11, 2011, 10:12 am
Before I jump into the most important ways that our girlfriends can help our marriages, I should clarify that I am speaking about women and their female friends.  If you are a man, a girlfriend is off limits no matter how many websites there are that will try to tell you that a little action on t...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Apr 9, 2011, 1:19 pm
The guy you are dating may be wonderful in many ways, but is he the type of person that you could really be happy with for a lifetime?  It can be hard to decide if your relationship will bring you happiness for the short term or if it has true staying power.  To help you decide if he is ”th...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Mar 30, 2011, 3:18 pm
Every time I cover the topic of why I believe that women should not propose to men, I receive replies from an overwhelming number of women who also believe that the man should be the one to propose.  It doesn’t seem to matter whether the women consider themselves to be feminists or whether they ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Mar 24, 2011, 4:51 pm
Our Advice Panel video bloggers just tackled the question of whether or not you should be willing to date someone who had been married three times?  We received so many great comments that we couldn’t fit in a two minute video so I decided to give the highlights about the attitudes that people ha...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Mar 22, 2011, 1:00 pm
When we think about people who have been married and divorced many times, the first people who come to mind are usually celebrities.  Of course there are also everyday people who have been married many times, and if you find yourself dating someone who has had multiple marriages, you are likely to ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Mar 17, 2011, 2:47 pm
I have been asking this question of both men and women, and it probably won’t surprise you to learn that an awful lot of men do think that women expect too much from them.  The “too much” that women expected of them didn’t have to do with a huge list of things that he should repair around t...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Mar 10, 2011, 9:27 am
The divorce rate in the United States has been hovering at around 50% for decades.  Despite that, the internet is constantly being accused of contributing  to the high divorce rate.  A recent survey of US divorce lawyers has had much of the media claiming that FaceBook is responsible for nearly 2...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Mar 8, 2011, 12:06 am
What do you do when the guy you are dating turns out to have a criminal record?  Should you get all the details or end it and find a guy who has less baggage from his past?  Women have posted these very questions in our relationship forum, and the main question they have is “are this crime reall...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Mar 2, 2011, 12:05 pm
When I tell people that nearly half of all the love dilemmas posted in our relationship advice forum fall into the “will he marry me?” category, they often wonder how this is possible.  “Don’t all the stories get to be the same after a while?” is the first question they usually ask.  In ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Feb 22, 2011, 2:30 pm
Everyone knows about the convenience and expanded opportunities to meet singles that online dating provides.  Despite the number of success stories from couples that have met online, we also get many stories from people who are disappointed by online dating.  One of the biggest complaints that the...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Feb 21, 2011, 12:02 pm
Once we get to be a certain age, we no longer expect the people that we date to still live at home with their parents.  In fact, we generally have a negative view of adult who live with their parents, especially men who still live at home.  Of course if living at home is the only negative abou...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Feb 9, 2011, 2:55 pm
Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that has officially gotten out of control.  Originally a minor holiday that involved giving your beloved a card, Valentine’s Day has morphed into a holiday that now has advertisers recommending that you spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars as proo...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Feb 7, 2011, 11:58 am
The early stages of dating are a tricky time when you are trying to get to know that person better and trying to determine if they are searching for a serious relationship.  Nobody wants to date a player, and nobody wants to admit that they are being played, but sometimes it does turn out that a ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Feb 2, 2011, 4:07 pm
Lately I seem to find myself defending marriage all the time.  I understand that marriage is in many ways very different than it was in the past, but that doesn’t take away from its importance.  What concerns me most about these declarations that marriage is officially obsolete is that they ofte...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jan 26, 2011, 1:55 pm
The words in-law and outlaw are examples of how two words that look very similar, can have vastly different meanings.  According to the dictionary, an in-law is a relative by marriage, while an outlaw is a fugitive from the law or a habitual criminal.  Of course nearly every marriage will at some ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jan 19, 2011, 4:09 pm
For a while it seemed like older women dating or marrying younger men was becoming more acceptable.  Beautiful celebrities like Demi Moore and Madonna married much younger men and the press seem to accept this rather than criticize it like they did years before when celebrities like Cher were invol...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Jan 17, 2011, 11:50 am
Love and money are closely intertwined, with money being one of the most common causes of arguments in relationships.  This makes the question of whether or not to lend a boyfriend or girlfriend money a potentially relationship ending decision.  Most people want to help out people in need, but you...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jan 12, 2011, 5:51 pm
One of the first things that we learn about manners when we are children is to say “thank you” when someone does something nice for us or gives us a compliment.  As adults we usually keep up this habit of saying thank you to casual acquaintances, but we often get a little lax with expressing gr...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Jan 5, 2011, 5:51 pm
The more characteristics that a couple has in common, the better chance that their relationship has of lasting.  Of course there are never any guarantees that any relationship will go smoothly, but being from different religions does present a special set of challenges for couples.  There are ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Jan 4, 2011, 1:41 pm
The end of 2010 brought about an enormous debate over the future of marriage.  The Pew Research Center released the results of their latest marriage study which had many people declaring that marriage was officially obsolete.  There was such a buzz, that I was asked to discuss the future of marria...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Dec 22, 2010, 1:36 pm
During this holiday season we are in a fun and festive mood here at LuvemOrLeavem.  So just for fun, we’re going to take a look at what finding love would be like if we approached choosing a man the same way that we approach shopping for a car.  What items would make him appealing enough to driv...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Dec 16, 2010, 10:31 am
For most aspects of life we like to believe that we gain wisdom as we get older.  We learn by observing, doing and of course making mistakes, so it makes sense that the more years we spend living and learning the wiser we become.  Of course in many aspects of our lives we can logically apply what ...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Dec 8, 2010, 3:55 pm
Many of the issues that are posted most on LuvemOrLeavem have to do with whether or not the woman is in a dead end relationship or if her relationship is merely in a rut.  Even when a relationship is mostly in shambles, many women are still not convinced that it is time to call it quits.  They wor...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Dec 6, 2010, 11:35 pm
His Best Friend is a Girl, but It Isn’t You It’s hard not to feel threatened when your partner has a best friend of the opposite sex.  Things get even more complicated if your man and his female best friend were a couple at one time.  Before you let your emotions get the best of you, se...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Nov 29, 2010, 3:33 pm
Back before the sexual revolution the roles of men and women were clearly defined.  The woman cooked, cleaned and cared for the children, and the man went to work so that he could provide for the family.  Today’s families are very different, with changes like both parents working outside the hom...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Nov 20, 2010, 6:05 pm
Men Are Usually Ready to Make a Relationship Sexual Before the Woman is Ready This difference between men and women is true whether you are young and haven’t been in the dating world very long, or whether you’re a woman who been out in the dating world for decades.  So, what should you do wh...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Nov 17, 2010, 2:22 pm
Once the calendar hits October, women who are planning a break up will often wait until after the new year.  Many women dread the idea of  going to all those holiday parties without a date or spending the holidays alone, so they decide to just put off the inevitable for a little while longer.  We...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Nov 10, 2010, 2:39 pm
People are often described as creatures of habit.  Good habits can help us in our relationships and in life in general, but bad habits are like poison to a relationship even if your relationship is mostly good.  Here are some of the worst relationship habits that couples, but especially women, ten...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Nov 6, 2010, 6:47 pm
After a difficult break up it is common to want to get your ex back.  Of course like many things in life, just because you want something doesn’t mean that getting it is a good idea.  Your relationship ended for a reason, and there is a good chance that you will be happier in a new relations...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Nov 3, 2010, 3:30 pm
Understanding how not to break up is a topic that I’ve tackled in the past when I listed many common mistakes that people make in what they do and say when they’re ending a relationship.  Since then I’ve received so many bad break up stories that I decided that  this time I would deal with s...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Oct 27, 2010, 3:29 pm
Dealing with a guy’s ex girlfriend or ex wife can be an enormous challenge for women.  Sometimes the ex is active in the man’s life either because they have remained friends or perhaps they have children together.  Even if he and his ex have no contact, some women find that dealing with the me...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Oct 26, 2010, 2:47 pm
No matter how much time you poured into creating the perfect online dating profile, the ultimate goal for most online daters in to find that special someone who will put your searching days behind you.  So, just how soon into a relationship should you pull down that dating profile?  Before you...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Oct 20, 2010, 3:22 pm
If divorce being contagious sounds silly to you, then you are not alone.  Despite that, much of the media continues to cite a study from Brown University that they say suggests that there is a divorce ripple effect.  It’s one thing to show that statistically there is a  likelihood of a couple g...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Oct 14, 2010, 1:12 pm
Recently, our Advice Panel vloggers tackled the topic of Signs that a Long Distance Relationship Can Last.  I’ve written about LDR’s before, but since then, changes in the economy have pushed so many more people into long distance relationships as they move to where the jobs are, that I decided...
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Tina T. posted an article on Relationship Videos LuvemOrLeavem Advice - Oct 11, 2010, 2:52 pm
Long distance relationships pose additional hurdles for couples to overcome, yet this type of relationship is becoming more and more common.  Some people find that internet dating leads them to a perfect match that is perfect in every way except that they live far away.  Others find that a rou...
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Tina T. posted an article on LuvemOrLeavem Relationships - Oct 6, 2010, 10:22 am
If you talk about love with someone who is genuinely happy in their long term relationship, odds are that you will hear them describe their partner as their “better half.”  It’s an important aspect of a relationship to feel that your partner brings out the best in you.  In fact, it’s a sur...
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